Anger. Frustration. Your blood starts to boil. You feel triggered and extremely unsettled.
How do you typically react in those situations?
And how do you typically feel afterwards about yourself and the way you handled it?
Not everything around anger is bad. We think it is, because usually when we are angry we react and respond in a way that isn’t aligned with our best selves and leaves us feeling badly about ourselves. But if we can learn to take some space between how we are feeling and how we are reacting, and if we really start to use that fire and frustration to fuel us moving forward, then it can be a powerful thing.
Anger in our lives CAN be a good thing. It can do us some service. In this episode, I want to start to break down how to USE those times where we are triggered, angry and frustrated and channel it in a way that’s going to produce a powerful and positive outcome in our lives. We can turn use those situations that anger us so much and bring some purpose into it; we can use that fire to create the life we want and really stand up for the things we deserve in our lives.
Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve wanted to do something or make a change or take some action….
But the mere thought of what you could possibly LOSE in the process stops you dead in your tracks?
The reality is that yes, in the process of making changes and reaching our goals and pushing ourselves forward, we have to do things we’ve never done (otherwise we’d already be there). And part of that sometimes means we have to give up certain things in our lives.
It’s a scary thought, though, especially when we are so ATTACHED to some of these things. The thought of having to give things up brings up so much fear that we just do nothing; the fear wins.
In this episode, we tackle what some of those fears are that come up for us when we feel like we’re going to lose something in the process of making a change or reaching a goal. I’ll share a few tips on how you can actually start tackling those fears and how you can gain more confidence in your ability to push through those fears so that you can start living the life you really want.
Because on the other side of those fears? Is your desired life.
Have you ever watched and noticed how elite athletes prepare themselves, mentally and physically, before their games and competitions? The focus, determination, drive and discipline required is admirable.
Take a step back and evaluate your life right now...you are a player in that game. And that game is happening every single day.
We are handed a blank slate every single day, and yet we don’t put in that same amount of preparation, focus, determination? We don’t have that same discipline in what is, truthfully, the most important “game” - our lives. We are taking that time for granted.
In this episode, I really want to challenge you to evaluate your life and start to think about training for each day of your life like athletes train for their competitions.
This is your game. How you choose to play it out is totally up to you. You can do more and have more and do better. You don’t have to be an athlete to apply the same disciplines and habits and focus; you can do everything that they do. You can lean on the same habits. The recipe for success is there - you just need to start viewing your life a little bit differently.
You’re working so hard.
You feel like you are so clear on what you’re working towards.
You are taking the right steps and making smart choices to push yourself forward.
And yet...you aren’t seeing any progress.
You aren’t seeing that hard work amount to anything.
You don’t feel like you’re any closer to those goals.
You feel frustrated.
Discouraged to no end.
Listen, I get it. I have been there so many times I can’t even count and I have really had to self-coach and lean on the tools I teach in terms of High Performance coaching to get myself through those tough times.
But it’s not easy; to feel like you’re taking all the right steps but yet not seeing the results happen.
It’s so discouraging.
Every single successful person in this world has been through this; what’s the difference between those who just give up and allow those feelings of frustration to take over and those who charge ahead, through those bad feelings, ultimately reaching those goals?
I can’t speak for everyone, but I’ll tell you what I coach on and what has worked in my own life!
In this episode of the Change by Choice show, I’m going to give you a few tools and strategies that I use, and I hope you can too, when I’m feeling that discouragement when pushing towards a goal in my life
Hands up if this is you...You walk away from a sales experience and you just feel GROSS? They certainly didn’t get your business, and you definitely won’t be in a hurry to return.
Yup...we’ve all been there.
If you’re in sales in any regard:
💲selling is your full time job
💲you run your own MLM
💲you are a leader or CEO
💲you’re trying to sell your thoughts or ideas as a thought-leader
Then you’re going to want to listen to this podcast...because it’s time we step away from those slimy, sleazy sales tactics.
If you’re NOT in a traditional “sales” role, you’re going to want to listen too. Because truth is, we are ALL selling something...everyday you are trying to influence someone, persuade someone or try to share your information or point of view with someone. Whether it’s convincing your spouse that going ahead with that kitchen reno is a great decision or trying to sell your children on the importance of doing their homework each night - we are constantly in a place of trying to “sell” and sometimes, we fall into methods and habits that just don’t work.
It’s time we start to explore what it means to nurture and develop strong relationships. Because if you really want long term wins and long term success….it’s going to come from developing those relationships and acting with integrity and in congruence with your best self.
I break it all down for you in this week’s episode: Episode 55: How to Sell Without Being Salesy.
**If you haven’t listened to Episode 53 yet, check that one out too...it connects so well to this one and is all about how our PEOPLE are our greatest assets**